The Value of Non-Judgmental Support for Muslim Women
The many barriers Muslim women face when accessing support often revolve around having to explain themselves and the fear of not being understood or acknowledged. With our unique experiences and identities, we want to feel heard and understood without being judged or made to feel like we are being judged. When Muslim women receive this type of support and can openly talk about their issues, it provides them with a space to blossom and grow. It also creates an opportunity to work on any issues currently present in their lives.
Often, the first step determines whether we continue with the support or choose to end it after that initial consultation. Making the first phone call or sending that first email can be daunting, and the response we receive is often what makes or breaks our decision to seek further help. A non-judgemental environment can truly make a difference when it comes to opening up and exploring our feelings. As Muslim women, we often face judgment—whether due to our beliefs, media portrayals, or societal and environmental factors. But when we are offered support in a non-judgemental manner, it allows us to nurture a healthy mindset and thrive in terms of mental health and well-being.
As Muslim women, we tend to put everyone before ourselves—whether it's our family, spouse, children, neighbours, or friends. We continue to give and give, but eventually, we may feel drained and empty due to not being appreciated or simply because we are human and need time for ourselves. Whether it's a chat over coffee or a phone call with someone who will truly listen, it can make a world of difference. It’s like when your phone battery is down to 1%, and you manage to plug it in just before it dies—what a relief! You’ve probably heard the phrase during flight safety briefings: "Put on your own mask before assisting others." This definitely applies to you, too. Whether it’s family responsibilities, work commitments, or financial pressures, it's crucial to invest in yourself and ensure you're in a mentally healthy space.
Remember, "Allah (SWT) gives the hardest battles to His strongest soldiers." And, "He (SWT) does not burden us beyond what we can bear." If you're facing hardship or calamity, remember that Allah’s help is near. Through these hardships, Allah has promised to forgive us of our sins and elevate our status in this life and the Hereafter. Even the pain of a thorn is not without reward in His plan.
So, what does non-judgemental support for Muslim women look like? Imagine what you'd want after confiding in someone or having that much-needed conversation you couldn’t have with anyone else. Would you want someone who listens without interruption? Someone who makes you feel comfortable and safe? Someone who shows genuineness and empathy? These qualities are essential when sharing personal and sensitive information. Most importantly, it’s how we’re made to feel during that interaction—because when there’s a lack of empathy or judgment is present, we’re less likely to reach out again.
Seeking help takes courage, and when you do decide to pick up that phone or write that email, remember how strong you are. This is the first step toward healing. With the right support, you will be able to thrive and manage the daily demands of life and the responsibilities you carry.