Recognising The Signs of Depression in Muslim Women: What To Look For
Bismillahir rahmaanir raheem.
Did you know women are twice as likely to experience depression compared to men? Female employees, in particular, are 20% more likely to experience symptoms of depression. And how many people do we know who would never share or disclose their suffering too? The statistics are likely to understate the truth of the matter. And sadly, the truth of the matter often can be quite horrific.
Muslim women in particular are often guilty of hiding their struggles. Sabr, crippling insecurities, self-doubt, whatever the justification that is used, many are suffering in silence. Sometimes, unfortunately, our faith is also weaponised against ourselves, and women experiencing depression, scold themselves when they consider seeking help and advice. “Don’t be so ungrateful” or “Things aren’t really that bad”- This is what women say to themselves. However, there are remedies, spiritual, mental and physical, which Allah SWT has blessed us with - if we choose to find them. And we should.
There are a number of psychological, physical and social signs that we can use to identify a Muslim women suffering with depression. If we can work as a collective, being aware and alert, we may well be able to recommend help, be a support system, and look after those around us just that little bit better. We don’t have to be doctors to be informed and kind.
Consistent negativity and a persistently low mood or self-esteem can often be symptoms of depression. As women, we tend to possess a heightened sense of emotional intelligence and empathy, which are blessings from Allah SWT. These traits enable us to form deep bonds, uplift one another in times of need, and maintain love and compassion for our sisters. They also allow us to recognise when something isn’t right, making us potential lifelines for a struggling sister.
There are several signs that a Muslim woman may be experiencing a depressive state. Changes in her behaviour could include may include:
Withdrawal from social activities: Avoiding family gatherings, not attending usual gatherings at the mosque, or isolating herself from friends.
Loss of interest: No longer engaging in hobbies or activities that previously brought her joy, such as attending classes, volunteering, or creative pursuits.
Physical changes: Weight loss or excessive weight gain, excessive fatigue, or a noticeable lack of energy.
Personal hygiene: Neglecting personal hygiene, body-care and grooming.
Emotional instability: Expressions of hopelessness, frequent tearfulness, irritability, or excessive guilt.
Cognitive changes: Difficulty concentrating, spacing out, making decisions, or remembering things.
It is also important to note spiritual indicators:
Changes in imaan: While ups and downs in faith are normal, sudden or extreme detachment from prayer, Quran recitation, or other usual acts of worship may indicate inner turmoil. Alternatively, erratic, obsessive or compulsive behaviours tied to worship may signal an attempt to cope with overwhelming emotions.
Women suffering from depression may feel trapped in a cycle of helplessness, exacerbated by waswasa (the whispers of Shaytaan) or self-doubt. They might seek solace in Allah SWT but struggle to maintain consistent actions, leading to additional vulnerability. As the Prophet Muhammad (ﷺ) said:"A believer to another believer is like a building whose different parts support each other." (Sahih al-Bukhari, 2446) This is why it is crucial for us, as Muslim sisters, to look out for one another. Whether it’s encouraging someone to seek professional help, sharing a comforting ayah, offering a listening ear, or even making dua, every small action can have a profound impact. Never hesitate to seek or provide support. We were made as sisters to one another, bonded by shared faith and a collective responsibility to uplift each other.
As sisters, we know each other best. There are challenges and hurdles in life which make a woman more susceptible to feelings of depression. If you know someone is going through a divorce, struggling to find a life partner, facing challenges as a parent, has been finding coping with bereavement overwhelming, or experiencing any trouble in life, check in on them, Please. It may be the one thing that pulls them out of the dark. Allah SWT chooses us to witness specific moments and for specific reasons. And we all need to be aware of what those moments and reasons could be. May Allah SWT grant us the ability to be attuned to others’ emotions and the tact to advise and support appropriately. May He SWT unite us with our beloved sisters in Jannah.
Wassalaamu alaikum wa rahmatullah,
Your sister,